20 Do's And Dont's With Divorce

I can tell you from experience that when word gets out that you are battling a divorce, people come out of the woodwork with all sorts of advice. Some of it may be genuine, but most of it is just crap. The problem is how are you supposed to know what exactly needs to be done in order to protect your assets and your family. Like it or not, the woman/man that you married is not the same woman/man that you are divorcing. There is a sort of "survival mode" that kicks in and they become a completely different person. If the person becomes hell bent on getting everything he/she can, I guarantee that they have an attorney that promises to get it for them. So almost immediately you have to kick it into defensive mode as fast as you can.

This is why I have put together a series of Do's and Don'ts that you can put some faith in. This is highly researched information. Information that you can find in places all over the internet. Later on, I will show you some of the best resources that I have come across during my ordeal.

First off there are the Do's...

1) Close joint accounts and credit cards
2) Try for a reasonable out-of-court settlement
3) Make sure your children (if any) know that you are not divorcing them
4) Keep good records of all information pertinent to the divorce
5) Do tons of research when it comes to finding a good divorce attorney
6) Attend all court dates, even if your attorney says that you don't have to be there!
7) Keep a good tab on your attorney's fees and try to estimate your spouse's fees
8) Try as hard as you can to work out a visitation schedule so you can keep your kids from having to appear in court!
9) Understand that you are going through one hell of a test here...the stress and anxiety is completely normal. (In fact, divorcing individuals are more likely to give in to life's problems, which unfortunately can lead to other more serious problems)
10) Always honor your agreement (even if you ex violates it)...this is very important if you end up have to go back in front of the judge.

These Don'ts are just as important...

1) Move from the house unless you are ordered to by the courts.
2) Ever try to turn your kids against their other parent.
3) Be afraid to ask your lawyer all the questions you want, and dump them if he/she is not working for you!

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